23 Things I’ve Learned at 23

Hi. My name is Alexa. I turned 23 today. Here’s 23 things I learned at 23.

  1. Self care is not selfish (even when some people make you feel otherwise).
  2. It’s okay to say no.
  3. It’s not okay to beat yourself up.
  4. FOMO might seem real, but not going won’t ruin your life.
  5. Stop waiting until you’re “perfect” or you meet a goal. Start now.
  6. 15kg less will not make you happy.
  7. People might appear settled and happy but on the inside feel very different.
  8. Depression is like a bedroom waiting to become organized. We need to make the decision to go through it (it’s worth it), grab some smelly socks, wash them and put them in the right drawer, and other things left aside for so long. Anyone can do it and it’s up for you to pull yourself out of this.
  9. You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.
  10. Gender roles are a social construct created by humans with a human brain that compensates its limited capacity by a probabilist process.
  11. So is marriage.
  12. Divorce is sometimes the best solution for two people in misery.
  13. Be more vulnerable. Be more vulnerable in the art you want to create. Be more vulnerable in your relationships and don’t be so terrified. Lose the shame.
  14. Journal. Every day. Pour you heart out.
  15. Dance. Dance it out. It doesn’t matter how you look.
  16. If you can survive sexual assault, death and losing one of your closest friends, and you are still this truly happy human, you should know by now that happiness does not come from outside things.
  17. See the good in every person. Give them love, especially if they hurt you. Forgive them. It will give you mental peace.
  18. Find things beautiful as much as you can, most people find too little beautiful.
  19. If you like her, tell her.
  20. Don’t be scared to ask for help. When your foot is broken, you live on your own and you can’t get down the stairs to do your groceries, call a friend.
  21. Learn the difference between a friend and a friendly acquaintance.
  22. Your mission – on this earth – at this time – is to infuse energy, passion and connection. It’s to inspire those around you to believe in themselves and to live their truth. You found your path. Don’t let your parents tell you otherwise. Inspire them, too.
  23. You’re still alive.


1 Comment

  1. Hannah
    June 27, 2019 / 1:39 pm

    You are so inspiring!! :))) <3

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